Pada Usia 18 saya, Saya Melahirkan Bayi!
Pada umur 17, saya menemui laki-laki impian saya. Sesudah mendapat berkat dari orang-tua saya, kami memutuskan kawin.
Setelah pacaran angin puyuh dan perkawinan kami, saya mengira hidup saya akan menstabilkan. Tapi saya salah. Tiga bulan sesudah perkawinan saya, saya mengetahui bahwa saya hamil. Sedangkan saya teramat bahagia dan menggetarkan hati, sebagian saya juga merasa takut. Hal saya takut kebanyakan, kehilangan kebebasan saya, bagaimanapun juga saya sudah dihibur dengan cerita seperti itu oleh beberapa teman saya.
Sediharapkan, hidup saya berganti secara DRAMATIS sesudah kelahiran bayi saya nama Shaheer, permata berharga saya. Sedangkan hidup saya tiba-tiba diisi dengan warna dan kebahagiaan, saya kehilangan kebebasan saya yang banyak. Disamping itu, saya menjadi seorang ibu pesta di rumah tinggal sewaktu naluri keibuan saya sedang mengerjakan lembur! Saya tidak bisa menahan jauh dari Shaheer. Gagasan meninggalkannya memaksa saya merasa merana dan tidak aman. Ialah ini apa mereka mengadakan pengorbanan seorang ibu?
Tetapi, kebenaran diberi tahu: mempunyai seorang anak tidak ada lelucon. Saya tidak mempunyai kata yang cukup untuk menggambarkannya. Saya menduga kata-kata yang paling seksama - sulit, tak pernah-berakhir dan sekali-sekali menjengkelkan! Anda mesti terus-menerus di jari kaki anda. Anda mesti menjadi siap masuk dan muka keadaan darurat yang mana pun. Banyaknya malam tak dapat tidur, ganti popok dan raungan terus-menerus adalah cukup untuk kegilaan manusia! Saya keajaiban bagaimana beberapa orang bekerja dengan baik mempunyai lima atau lebih orang anak.
Banyak kali, teman saya tanya jika saya menyesali keputusan saya mempunyai seorang anak ini muda. Tetapi nah, saya belum pernah menyesalinya. Pastilah teman saya menolak untuk percaya kepada saya!
Kehadiran Shaheer dalam hidup saya sudah mengajar saya bahwa hidup itu kepada saya tentang memberi dan saling berbagi cinta anda mempunyai dengan orang lain. Saya belajar menjadi dewasa dan bertanggung jawab perjalanan yang akan datang saya dan masa depan Shaheer bahwa saya dipercayai untuk membentuk.
Seorang teman saya baru-baru ini bertanya saya jika saya pernah akan menyemangati siapa saja umur saya untuk menjadi seorang ibu. Jawaban saya? Bukan, tak pernah. Sewaktu melahirkan bayi begitu banyak dari anda karena setelah itu anda tidak bisa menikmati kehidupan anda dengan bebas dan tidak bisa jalan-jalan ke luar pada kemauan anda. Anda tiba-tiba di dunia restriksi. Kesimpulan – ganti itu luar biasa! – Zubaidah
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Oh you’re moving out from in law..Yes that true living on our own the best no misunderstood with in law. It all depend how you handling as for me i staying with my in law. I’m happy with at least elder people at home it a bit save for my kids as you know nowsdays parent working kids enjoying after school…So by staying with my in laws at least my kids don’t dare to go out after school as my in law will be at home to guide them. You still very young it better you stay with elder people at home it for your own good.
Wow now Zubaidah online…
So tell me how do you get to be in this article?
This pages the best among all. So many people are chatting… I will get my frens to be in this pages just to see preety young lady.
According to the Singapore Department of Statistics our divorce rate has doubled over the last decade and as of 2003, every ten marriages registered in Singapore almost 3 ended in divorce. One way we can combat this is getting married later!
Not every marriage will end with a divorce. You must plan your future and look ahead to be together. Communication is essential in a marriage regardless a year , 2 years or 5 or more. I’m married for more than 3 years and we are still loving , nothing change except I falling in love more and more each day. With presence of our child , I feel I become more responsible, sensible and make me work even harder to achieve for better future for my family. Those that end up with a divorce , didnt think far enough, probably lack of understanding, communication, trust are not there to supplement their marriage. I love this website, and if possible would like to hear from father more
Theasianparent, you are the best website I ever come across:)
Well Geraldine too me if you choose to get married mean u want to start a family. starting a family mean having a house and do everything on ur own….it time for our parent to take a rest…
hmm Statfrat if human have the same thinking of u then there will be no Singapore Department of Statistics my dear life is never perfect..every one make mistake…
faruk he’s rite…but in marriage if there is no trust,understanding Etc then for sure it will end with divorce sooner or later
Hazel why nothing from you…YOu told me you comment something yesterday..
Hi Zubaidah…But you too young and just start working and i guess CPF also not enough. Must be your husband rich that why you can effort to buy a house. You so lucky then.
Hi can i get to know you?
Geraldine yess im young but my thinking is not young and true no enough CPF but my hubby werk for quit sometime so with his we can!he’s not rich we live simple…..
Age is just a number. You could be 18, but at the same time you could be more mature than a 28yr old. So long as you are physically, mentally and emotionally ready, and mature enough to be responsible for your actions, I think you are respectable!! All the best girl!!
Hi Zubaidah I amaze on ur scarifices
Geraldine i’m young but my thinking is mature..yap my CPF is not Enought but my hubby werk for quit sometime with his we can..he not rich we live simple life..like normal human.
Some of you guys here may give her negative comments for getting married young..but let me tell you this..its really worth it for her!! coz she’s got herself such an adoarable and smart baby!!..I’ve seen him personally..God! He’s so smart..never seen any other babies as smart as him..and on top of that..he’s so adorably cute!!
Hey Zubaidah..all the best in your life!!
Love….
I thot me givin birth at 22 was considered young! Zubaidah you are doin VERY well!
Geraldine: stop being discouraging.
hey, we R yOung mummies~ Nothing wrong giving birth @ young age. I was pregnant at 17years old & gave birth to mOii 1st gal @ 18 & 2nd gal @ 19. Now the elder 1 turns 3yrs old, while e younger 1 coming to 2yrs old in Aug. Having HaPpY maRriaGe tOo!~ *ChEeRs* TaKe CaRe & enjOy mOtHeRhOoD LiFe~ =D
a very interesting article… Married at such a tender age… Zubaidah, I’m impressed at your abilities. So what’s your secret to a happy family.. You’ve got it all, a husband, a son…. Have a blissful marriage.
Wow! Zubaidah article so popular. In Malaysia all of us talking about you and
read all your comment from outsider. Yes it too young for you to get married and give birth but it all call in Malay “JODOH & TAKDIR”
Hi boleh berkenalan
Perempuan ini so famous dekat Singapore. Dapat banyak comment2. Boleh berkenalan?
AsianParent commented earlier that there’ll be an article on ur husband.. It’ll be interesting to read his story. When?
AsianParent should take this article down. Zubaidah doesn’t deserve a spot on this website. She contradicts herself through and through with this article. Is she for real?
go go mummy.. wad a cute bb u hv.. i was married at 17 too.. my son is nw 6months old.. good luck too u yeah =D
well done.
all the best to you and your family.
zubaidah is a stronger woman…..with whatever shje go thru now ….i really hope her marriage will work up….
Too all who want to know her article on ur husband.. go to get real, then look for ” I married 17 year old girl
hi zubaidah, firstly i want to say congratulations. u r very brave. wow. and u have a cute baby. how old is he now? well, here’s in my country, it’s normal when we live with the in law. also Alhamdulillah my mother in law is very care about me. but now we live with my mom. and its ok for my husband. i hope God always blesses your family and always be a happy family.
u have a beautiful son..and u look better after having a child. god bless u & ur family
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